One of the most frustrating things about being single is that you don’t get to choose who you want to spend your time with. Sure, there are plenty of people out there who’d love to spend more time with you. But unless you specifically ask them out on a date, they probably aren’t going to take that step to get closer to you.
Whether it’s because they have their reasons for staying single or they feel like they can’t commit to anyone right now, it sucks not having anyone special in your life. And it doesn’t help that most people tend to view being single as a negative thing either.
A lot of people assume that being single means you hate being around other people and never want anyone else in your life besides your cats and maybe a close friend or two. Fortunately, not every aspect of being single is so bad!
There are plenty of benefits associated with being single as well as a whole host of reasons why every person should be happy staying single if they choose to (whether it’s for personal reasons or because they just haven’t met the right person yet). Here are some of the best things about being single…
You can do whatever you want whenever you want.
Dating is a series of awkward “this should happen right now, but let’s just wait a little while” moments. No matter how much you want it to happen, you can’t just set the world on fire and expect a relationship to just pop up. The only thing you can control is yourself. While dating is a good thing in a sense because it’s the only way to meet new people, you don’t have to put yourself into situations you don’t necessarily want to be in.
If you have a social schedule that you don’t want to change just for the sake of dating someone, then you don’t have to. You can just do what you want when you want and don’t have to worry about someone else’s schedule if you don’t want to. Being in a relationship is a commitment. It means you have to change your life to make room for the person you’re dating. You have to put their needs above your own.
You have to show them affection and attention whenever they want or need it. You have to try your best to accommodate everything they need or want. And even if you don’t love someone or want to be with them, you have to put up with them for the sake of your relationship. Being in a relationship feels like signing up for a one-way ticket to an unhappy life. Being single is like being free to travel wherever you want whenever you want. You get to decide how you want to live your life, which is incredible freedom.
You don’t have to go to any of those stupid parties.
Dating is a lot of effort. Not only do you have to put yourself out there and try to meet new people and develop a conversation with them (which is almost impossible after the first few dates), but you also have to pack a lot in your social calendar. You have to squeeze in days of activities with your partner, go to their events and parties, and spend time with their friends and family as well.
Now and then there’s a social event that you don’t want to go to, but you feel like you have to because it’s in a category of “things I have to do”. Dating is stressful because you don’t want to go to those things, but you feel like you have to because “they’re in that group”.
Dating is a time-consuming physical and mental burden. Not only are you putting yourself out there and having to put up with the hardships that come with it (like rejection, having to change your life to accommodate someone else, etc.), but you’re also putting your time, energy, and finances into something that can be a complete waste of time.
There are plenty of other things you can do with your time (and life) that don’t require you to spend months building up to a few hours on a dance floor or in a room full of people you’ve never met. Going to parties, going to events, and meeting new people is great when you want to do it, but it’s not something you have to do to be happy. You can make new friends without having to do a formal event or spend a lot of money on tickets and drinks.
You get to spend your time however you choose.
Dating is a time commitment. You have to make time for it, plan for it, schedule it, and most importantly, put yourself out there for it. It’s not easy to put yourself out there and risk being rejected. You have to be willing to give someone you don’t know a chance to be with you. You have to be willing to take risks with people you don’t know. Dating is stressful because you have to make time for it.
And that’s not even mentioning all the mental stress you feel because of it. You have to make time for new people in your life (because you have to meet them and be able to spend time with them sometimes!), spend time with your partner, and try to find time to spend on yourself as well. Dating is a lot of time commitment, but you don’t have anyone to make that commitment to.
You don’t have anyone to put your time on hold for. You don’t have anyone to put other commitments on hold for. Dating is stressful and a lot of time commitment. Being single is completely free of that commitment. You can spend your time on your terms and do whatever you want with your own time. You don’t have to make time for dating because it’s not a thing you do.
You have no one to worry about making offended.
Dating is an uphill battle. You have to put yourself out there and risk getting rejected. You have to put yourself into situations that maybe you don’t want to be in. You have to try to impress someone you don’t know with your personality, your interests, and your skills. Dating is stressful because you have to worry about offending someone.
You have to worry about having conversations and making connections with people who don’t want to be there. In the end, you’re probably going to hurt some feelings along the way. Dating is hurtful and offensive because you have to make connections with people who don’t want to be there. Being single is completely free of that risk.
You don’t have to try to impress anyone because there’s no one to impress. You don’t have to put yourself out there because there’s no one to risk being offensive to. You don’t have to worry about offending anyone because there’s no one to offend. Being single is completely free of the risk of offending people unintentionally.
There’s no pressure to find someone who wants the same things as you.
Dating is a lot of pressure and effort. You have to make time for it, plan for it, schedule it, and most importantly, put yourself out there for it. Dating is stressful because you have who you’re with and how you’re with them is important. You spend so much time and energy trying to impress someone or trying to change yourself to make them like you.
Dating is hurtful and offensive because you have to make connections with people who don’t want to be there. Being single is completely free of that pressure. You don’t have to impress anyone because there’s no one to impress. You don’t have to change yourself because there’s no one to change. You don’t have to try to make yourself likeable because there’s no one to be like. Being single is completely free of the pressure of doing things to impress people.
Conclusion
Dating is a lot of effort, but it doesn’t have to be. You can do whatever you want and whenever you want, you don’t have to go to any stupid parties, and you get to spend your time however you want. You can also be as open and accepting of others as you want without any pressure to change yourself or try to be someone you
