Life can be hard as a single woman. You’re used to people fussing over you and catering to your every need, so being on your own is a bit of an adjustment. The fact that there are no guys to worry about means it’s also not quite as much fun (at least at first).
Fortunately, being a single girl comes with its perks, too. Here are some things you might not have known about the life of a single woman: before you go out and get yourself a boyfriend or settle down with someone.
Dating is hard.
You might have gone on a few dates before, but it’s different when you’re trying to date someone. There’s a sense of pressure that’s often not felt when you’re meeting people at a bar or on a friend’s couch. You have to be extra considerate, but you also have to be yourself.
You have to be thoughtful and try to figure out what they like without turning it into a business deal. You have to be friendly, but not too friendly. It can be exhausting, but it’s also kinda great. It’s a good idea to get some practice in before you get serious about dating.
You’re not settling for anyone.
You might want to settle for someone, but you don’t have to. You deserve to be with someone who makes you happy, not someone who makes you settle for your current level of contentment. To do that, you have to stop settling for what you’re currently getting.
You have to be honest with yourself and ask: is this person making you happy or are they just making you comfortable? Once you figure that out, you can move to the next level.
You don’t need a man to be happy.
That’s right; you can be happy regardless of whether or not you have a partner. Sure, dating a guy will add a little extra happiness to your life, but you don’t need a guy to make you happy. You can find love and fulfilment on your own. You don’t have to rely on anyone else.
You don’t have to find a man and marry him or have kids to be fulfilled. You can find happiness on your own without any of the negative baggage that comes with a man. Sure, having a guy in your life can add to your happiness, but you don’t have to have one to be happy.
Sex is awesome (and so are the benefits).
Sex isn’t just some magical thing that happens between a man and a woman. You can have sex with someone and it doesn’t make you their lover. It doesn’t mean they love you; it doesn’t mean they want to be with you exclusively; and it doesn’t mean you’re even that good in bed.
Sex is great, but it doesn’t mean anything. It’s just two people having sex; there’s no expectation, no emotion, and no attachment. Sex doesn’t make a relationship. When you’re ready to have sex, you’re ready to have sex. There’s no need to be coy and keep waiting for the guy to make a move. When you want to have sex, you want to have sex. And if you don’t, there’s no need to wait. Just say, “I don’t want to have sex right now,” and move on with your life.
There are other ways to find happiness.
Yeah, dating can be fun, but it’s not the only thing in life. You don’t have to be in a relationship to be happy. You don’t have to find a man to be happy. You don’t have to find a boyfriend or a girlfriend to be happy. You can find happiness on your own and do all the things you love to do.
You can go to the movies by yourself. You can go to a concert by yourself. You can spend the day with your best friends by yourself. You don’t have to be with anyone to be happy. You don’t have to be in a relationship to be happy.
Take advantage of your independence and find what works for you.
As a single woman, you have all the freedom in the world. You don’t have to be with anyone. You don’t have to make any decisions or take any responsibility. You don’t have to worry about anyone but yourself. That doesn’t mean that you should take advantage of that.
It doesn’t mean that you should let yourself go or stop trying to be better. It doesn’t mean that you should become a shameful mess because you don’t have to worry about anyone. Instead, it means that you have the freedom to be who you want to be. If you’re dating someone, great; if you’re not, great. You don’t have to date anyone to have a great life. You don’t have to be in a relationship to be happy.
Swipe right and understand why people say no.
Swiping through your dating apps is fun and exciting when you’re swiping through your friends and your exes, but it can also be a little bit scary. You might be nervous about what people are going to think of you if you swipe right on someone.
Unfortunately, you might also be nervous about what people are saying as well. People might say that you’re nice, but that you’re not their type (or whatever it might be). Unfortunately, you might just brush that off because you’re not used to hearing things like that.
What you should do, though, is listen carefully. Swipe right on someone and then ask yourself if you would date them. Swipe right on someone who you wouldn’t date, but then ask yourself why they might seem appealing. It can feel a little scary at first, but it’s something that you have to do.
Dating is fun and exciting, but it’s also a lot of hard work. If you want to find someone who you want to spend the rest of your life with, you have to put in a lot of work. Dating is going to be a challenge no matter who you are, but as a single woman, you have an extra challenge on your hands.
You don’t need a man to be happy and you don’t need a boyfriend to have great sex, but you do need to put in the work if you want those things. You need to put yourself out there, you need to be friendly and considerate, and you need to be genuine.
You also need to be ready for the rejection that’s going to come your way. That’s going to happen a lot, and that’s something that you have to be ready for. Dating as a single woman is going to be a challenge, but with the right mindset, it can also be a lot of fun.