Do you feel like men your age are having a hard time dating? From the articles we read to the conversations we have, it seems like men over 30 are finding it increasingly difficult to date. Maybe it’s because so many people our age have settled down and gotten married. The biggest dating mistakes men over 30 make is treating dating like a game. If you approach women as if they’re not worth your time, you may as well just walk by them and keep walking.
Maybe it’s because our pick-up artist counterparts have made us feel like we need to look a certain way or live a certain lifestyle to be considered attractive. Or maybe it’s simply because there aren’t as many single people our age looking for love as there used to be.
Whatever the reason, dating as an older man has never been an easy experience. If you’re in your 30s, chances are you’ve been on a few failed dates by now. It can be tough when someone doesn’t want anything serious from you or they just aren’t that into you.
The good news is that it gets easier after age 30…and getting married isn’t out of the question either! In this blog post, we will share with you some tips on how you can improve your dating life as an older man so that more women will want to go out with you again and again!
Don’t Be Afraid To Be Yourself
Do you feel like you have to try extra hard to impress the women you’re trying to date? If so, you might want to ease up a bit and just be yourself! After all, a woman’s primary attraction to a man is his personality. If you’re constantly trying to be someone else, you risk coming across as fake – and that will make her lose interest. Not only that but women are attracted to men who are confident in who they are.
When you try too hard to impress her, you come across as nervous or unsure of yourself. That’s not something she’s going to want to date! Furthermore, if you approach dating as a competition, you may end up dating someone who’s not right for you just to show them up.
Instead of trying to win the woman you’re dating over, why not try to just be yourself and let her win you over? If you do this, you’ll be dating a more relaxed, happy person who will make yourself and your friends a lot happier as well!
Match.com Is Dead
We’ve all heard the joke about how dating on Match.com is like going to a funeral. But it’s more like going to a ghost town. Sure, there are a handful of people online trying to date, but most of the people you’re meeting in person are not interested in dating you. And if you end up going out with them, you’ll quickly realize that they’re not interested in dating either.
There’s no point in going out with people you’re not interested in dating. The only thing you’ll end up wasting your time and energy on is feeling disappointed in yourself because you wasted a date that you weren’t even interested in! If you’re looking for serious relationship and marriage prospects, online dating is not the way to go.
Sure, you might meet some nice people who are just looking for friends or casual partners, but you can also end up meeting a ton of creepy people who are just looking to find easy victims to satisfy their urges. Online dating is not safe, and it’s just not worth the risk.
Don’t Date Someone Who Has A Fear Of Commitment
One of the biggest dating mistakes men over 30 are making is dating someone who has a “fear of commitment.” Why is this a problem? Well, women are attracted to men who are attracted to them, and if she likes you, she’ll show you that by staying with you past the time she’s intentions were. But what if she shows you interest in a relationship, but is just a little bit scared to commit?
In that case, you have to show her that you’re willing to commit to a serious relationship with her right now. You can do this by committing her now. Maybe you take her out to dinner or pay for a movie and a couple of drinks. Whatever you decide to do, make sure you commit to her right now and not just in the future.
You Need To Show Up Earlier Or Offer To Stay Later
Most people think that you should only show up on dates 5 minutes late and expect the woman to wait an extra 15 minutes for you. But this isn’t how it works. You should try to show up at least 5-10 minutes early and let the woman know you’re looking forward to seeing her.
This shows her that you’re excited and interested in spending time with her. If she’s running late, let her know and ask if you can wait outside for her in the lobby or something. Showing her that you’re willing to compromise has a huge chance of winning her over.
Stop Being So Nice On Dates
Too many older men treat women like princesses on dates. But the truth is, women are attracted to men who are confident and not afraid to be “bad” on the first few dates. When you meet a woman on a date, you should try to relax. Don’t be so nice to her and don’t try to be someone else that you’re not.
If she asks you how you are, how you’re feeling, or what you like, be yourself. It’s not being too nice to be yourself, it’s being straightforward and honest. Be aware of what you say and what you do. If she doesn’t treat you like you deserve to be treated, ask her why. If she doesn’t show you respect, ask her why. It’s okay to ask these types of questions, because they show you’re interested and that you respect her.
Take Some Classes Or Learn A New Skill That People Will Talk About At Parties
One of the best ways to boost your dating life as an older man is to learn something new. You can use this new skill to meet women at clubs or networking events, or you can use it to impress your friends when they ask you to play music.
You could even take up a new hobby like photography, martial arts, or knitting. There are tons of interests that people just don’t talk about enough and that older men could benefit from learning. For example, you could become more environmentally aware by learning about renewable energy sources, or you could learn how to conserve water by taking up gardening.
Conclusion
The biggest dating mistake men over 30 make are treating dating like a game. If you approach women as if they’re not worth your time, you may as well just walk by them and keep walking.
But what if you turn this around and treat dating like a game? What if you approach every new woman like you’re going to win her over? What if you think to yourself, “I’m going to bring this woman flowers, I’m going to treat her to dinner, and I’m going to call her every day until she starts to like me”?
It doesn’t matter if you’re not that good-looking, not that ambitious, or not that kind of person; you can always make yourself better by treating dating like a game. It’s never too late to start dating again and it certainly never hurts to try harder.
