Anyone who’s ever been in a long-term relationship knows that some guys just don’t seem to get the hint that you’re looking for something more. It can be frustrating getting friend zone over and over again without anyone ever being able to put your feelings into words properly.
Sure, they might be a great friend or an excellent source of emotional support, but there’s just no sugarcoating it when they don’t see you as anything more than a close pal. Some of them claim they understand how you feel and that it sucks when things aren’t working out between the two of you.
But all the same, your efforts to get them to see things from your point of view just keep coming up short. It can be frustrating getting friend-zoned over and over again without anyone ever being able to put your feelings into words properly. And given how common it is, it can feel like you’re hardly alone with this problem.
However, there are plenty of guys out there who have gone through the same thing so many times that they almost feel like they were born with terrible luck at how quickly most girls see past their nicenesses and nicenesses alone.
The good news is that even if other people think you’re crazy for wanting to give up on someone who means so much to you now, maybe it’s time for them to realize that maybe things weren’t meant to work out between the both of you after all? Here are some tips for guys who keep getting friend zoned in hopes of finally cracking open their potential as
Be Yourself
It’s a well-known fact that girls are attracted to intellect and confidence above all else, but when a guy seems unsure of himself and constantly second-guesses himself and his decisions, it can be off-putting. It’s understandable for guys to feel like they have to prove themselves to girls (and even themselves) from time to time, but being constantly aware of how you come across to others can help you to avoid this.
If you’re always nervous about what other people think of you, you run the risk of constantly second-guessing yourself and taking so many “safe” routes that you never truly “live” or “feel.” If you want to get any girl to pay attention to you and see past the nicenesses and nicenesses alone, you have to be the real version of yourself.
Don’t Pretend To Like Things That You Hate
It’s super easy to go on a date with someone and have them pick out some nice and quality things to do and places to eat, only for you to feel completely different about everything when you’re out with them. If you’re pretending to like something just because you think it’s what you should do, don’t, or because you feel like it’s “expected” of you in a certain situation, don’t expect to get away with it forever.
Pretending to like things you don’t is a huge red flag to others because it makes you seem fake and insincere. You might be hoping that, once they stop trying to impress you with their tastes, they’ll mellow out and become more likeable, but it’s always best to just be yourself and hopes that you’re liked for who you are instead of what you pretend to be.
Confidence Is Key
Confidence is a huge thing, but what most people don’t realize is that it’s not just something that you “feel like” or “don’t feel like” until the right situation comes along, you have to dig deep and find it within yourself.
Confidence is a rare and powerful thing that can only be truly cultivated through hard work and dedication. There are plenty of easy shortcuts to it (such as pretending to like things that you secretly hate, being fake and insincere, etc.) but if you want to get rid of the friend zone for good, the only way to do it is to work on your confidence and cultivate an aura of confidence and ease around others.
Stop Asking Someone Out If They Keep Saying No
It’s one thing to be friend-zoned and not know what to do about it and another thing entirely to keep asking someone out and getting rejected, even if you know they’re not interested.
You might be hoping that, once they finally say “no,” they’ll realize how much you want them and feel differently about you, but if you keep asking and they keep saying “no,” it’s likely just going to make you both even more uncomfortable.
You might be dying to be someone’s “one and only” (again, your words, not theirs), but if you keep asking someone out even when they say no, it’s more than likely going to make them feel like you’re not someone they want to be with.
Don’t Be Pushy About Exclusivity
Exclusivity is a tricky thing to navigate because, on the one hand, it’s nice to have someone to yourself and keep things “exclusive” with them, but on the other hand, you don’t want to be pushy about it. If you think you’ve found someone great and someone who might like someone else, you might be tempted to make them feel guilty for seeing other people and not exclusively dating you first.
If you want to be someone’s one and only, you want to be the one who earned it, not the one who assumed they were that “someone” to begin with. If you want to be someone’s one and only, you want to be the one who earned it, not the one who assumed they were that “someone” to begin with.
Conclusion
There’s no way around it: dealing with the friend zone in your life is rough and it can be really hard to keep moving forward with your life when you’re so invested in someone who doesn’t seem to want you around.
However, there are ways to get around it and find someone who might want to be with you instead of just being nice to you. You just have to keep working on yourself and trying to be the real version of yourself that you want to be and hope that eventually when you open yourself up to other people, they’ll like it.
